“Your kids will fail. This is both
inevitable and also necessary. Apparently not many parents today want to
hear this uncomfortable fact. And they certainly don’t want to
implement it in how they discipline their children. Writing the cover
story for The Atlantic’s July/August issue, therapist Lori Gottlieb alerts us that the cult of self-esteem is ruining our kids.
Convinced they are the center of the universe and capable of anything,
our children have become insufferable narcissists. Then, when these kids
grow up and fail, as they must, they head for the nearest therapist,
worried their lives have gone horribly wrong.” Gottlieb writes:
[R]ates of anxiety and
depression have also risen in tandem with self-esteem. Why is this?
“Narcissists are happy when they’re younger, because they’re the center
of the universe,” [psychology professor Jean] Twenge explains. “Their
parents act like their servants, shuttling them to any activity they
choose and catering to their every desire. Parents are constantly
telling their children how special and talented they are. This gives
them an inflated view of their specialness compared to other human
beings. Instead of feeling good about themselves, they feel better than
everyone else.” Continue reading….
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