Dating is dead.
So says the media. Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal
attempt at winning your affections. Don’t sit around waiting for a boy
to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on
the phone. Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of
the past, and misplaced hopes.
I beg to differ. It’s not that this new line of thinking is
necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend
of our culture. It’s wrong. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a
life-long partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to
tweets, texts, and Facebook pokes, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling
around. It’s wrong.
Dating That Preserves Marriage
There is a God. And this God created and rules his world, including
men, women, the biological compulsions that bind them together, and the
institution that declares their union and keeps it sacred and safe.
Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of
our marriages.
If fullness of life could be found in sexual stimulation, or if it
was just a matter of making babies, the “forget formality and just have
sex” approach might temporarily satisfy cravings and cause enough
conception. But God had much more in mind with romance than orgasms or
even procreation, and so should we. So must we.
When people in the world are expecting less and less of each other in
dating, God isn’t — so among the single we have to work harder in our
not-yet married relationships to preserve what marriage ought to picture
and provide.
Mom, Where Do Weddings Come From?
Nothing in my life and faith has been more confusing and spiritually
hazardous than my pursuit of marriage. From far too young, I longed for
the affection, safety, and intimacy I anticipated with a wife. Continue at Marshall Segal
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