The implications and influence of our attitudes towards others cannot
be overstated. Our tone is usually louder than our message. And tone is
more quickly interpreted than words. I’m finding out the hard way that
this is the linchpin of parenting.
Having teenage sons in our home creates an interesting environment.
Messes happen, chores are neglected, arguments develop, things are lost,
procrastination reigns. No, it’s not all negative, but it can get
frustrating. But my frustration is not so much that my boys will be
boys, but with my response and shepherding of them. Here is the all too
easy pattern into which I can fall.
Something happens with one (or more) of my sons that needs
correction; they sin. This sin comes to my attention and I feel the
reflex of anger in my heart. Then comes a list of questions racing each
other in my mind towards my tongue. “What were you thinking?” “What do
you think you’re doing?” “Are you kidding me?” “How dare you?” “You were
only thinking about yourself, weren’t you?” The list could go on…
Yes, my sons need constant correction. But so does their Dad. But how
should that correction be framed? How important is the attitude behind
the correction?
If you are a parent who longs to see your children walk with God or a
someone who wants to influence your friends and family, there is a
helpful pattern for us to follow in Romans 2:4. Paul writes:
Or do you think lightly of the riches of
His kindness and tolerance and patience, not knowing that the kindness
of God leads you to repentance?
From Rick Holland
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